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Out in Sport is a campaign being run at Lancaster University this May as part of the Roses 50th Anniversary, celebrating positive role models and allyship.

We are having a stall on Saturday/Sunday in the Roses Village from 10am-5pm taking pictures of people who support people who are ‘out in sport’

Click on the image above to like the Facebook page to keep track of our campaign this weekend.

Welcome back everyone! It’s the start of a new term and we know many of you will be busy but we hope you’ll grant yourself a break and come join us this week!

MONDAY
Coffee evening 18:00 Furness Bar
Come along for a relaxing social and a hot drink.

WEDNESDAY
Weekly Meeting – 17:00 Charles Carter A19
We’ll be hearing about developments from NUS LGBT+ conference from our delegates as well as discussing plans for the term.

THURSDAY
PMS – 17:30 Flyde Bar
Our LGBTQ+ group for Postgraduate and Mature Students and Staff, will be at 5:30pm in Fylde Bar as usual. This is an opportunity for specifically postgrads, mature students and staff to chat after work.

FRIDAY
T and Coffee – 18:00
This is a trans-specific social meeting for trans people to come together and discuss anything important to them. If you’re interested in attending, just send us a Facebook message (completely confidential).

It’s time again for LGBTQ+’s termly Canal Street trip on Friday 18th March!

3 bars are planned for the bar crawl: Cruz 101, Kikis and AXM – there will also be some drink deals.

The coach will leave at 9pm and we will set off back to campus at 3am.

Tickets are £14 and will be sold this week at the following times:
TUES 1-2pm in Trev (Furness bar)
WEDS 12-1pm in Bowland Bar
THURS 2-3pm in County Bar

LUSU is currently running a running an ‘I Won’t Stand For It’ campaign about not tolerating oppression, and as always we want to show that we won’t tolerate discrimination of under-represented LGBTQ+ identities. We have previously run awareness campaigns about the asexuality spectrum, bi and pan, and polyamory and non-monogamy, because we want to raise awareness of these identities, clear up some common misconceptions, and ensure that people of all LGBTQ+ identities are welcome within the community.

To start with, here’s a definition:

Aromanticism is the lack of romantic attraction to people of any gender.

In this context, attraction refers to a mental or emotional force that draws people together. There are multiple types of attraction, including:

Romantic attraction – the desire for a romantic relationship with a specific person.
Sexual attraction – the desire for sexual contact with a specific person.
Sensual attraction – the desire for physical contact with a specific person that is not necessarily sexual, e.g. kissing, cuddling.
Aesthetic attraction – the attraction to a specific person based on their physical appearance but without the desire to act upon it.

Some people experience all of these, and others only experience one or two. These types of attraction are separate but can intersect, and they can be difficult to differentiate, especially if you’re experiencing more than one at a time.

Just like aromanticism is the lack of romantic attraction, asexuality is the lack of sexual attraction. These two identities are often confused, but they are completely different. Some people are both aromantic and asexual, and some are only one or the other.

Like most identities, aromanticism exists on a spectrum. Some people never experience romantic attraction at all, and those on the other end of the spectrum experience it regularly.

Aromantic – doesn’t ever experience romantic attraction (or very rarely does).
Grey-aromantic – only sometimes experiences romantic attraction, or doesn’t experience it to a great extent.
Alloromantic – does experience romantic attraction.

There are also several others identities that fall under the aromantic spectrum:

Demiromantic – only experiences romantic attraction after forming a deep emotional bond.
Lithromantic – experiences attraction but doesn’t want reciprocation.
Akoiromantic – experiences attraction that fades once reciprocated.
WTF-romantic – general term for not understand what is going on with how you experience romantic attraction.
Quoi/platoniromantic – can’t distinguish between experiencing romantic and platonic attraction.
Cupio/kalosromantic – desires a relationship but doesn’t experience romantic attraction.

However, just because there are a lot of words to describe the identities on the aromantic spectrum, you never have to label yourself if you don’t want to or if you aren’t able to find a label that fits. You’re also allowed to use terms that are close to how you identify if it’s easier, e.g. a demiromantic person might refer to themselves as aromantic because it’s simpler to explain, or you can use umbrella terms if you don’t want to explain the intricacies of your identity, e.g. LGBTQ+ or queer.

Ultimately, how you identify is your choice – you can use any applicable labels to describe yourself, or none at all.

Here are some other useful terms:

Romance repulsion – when romantic interactions make you feel icky. This varies between people, e.g. some people find romance unpleasant when it affects them directly whereas some people dislike seeing romance in media etc.

Queerplatonic relationship – not a romantic relationship but involves a close emotional bond, which can be similar to friendship or to dating. It’s often used by people on the aromantic spectrum and is normally used due to the commitment level involved which can be similar to romantic relationships.

Aromantic people are heartless

Aromantic people can care about people just as deeply as anyone else – they can love people, just not romantically.

Aromantic people are ‘missing out’

Just because you enjoy or seek out romantic relationships doesn’t mean everyone does; lots of people can quite happily go without romantic relationships.

Aromantic people can’t have meaningful relationships

Platonic or queerplatonic relationships are just as meaningful as romantic ones.

Aromantic people don’t experience discrimination

All identities under the LGBTQ+ umbrella experience discrimination. A total lack of awareness is a very significant form of oppression because it means aromantic people have to constantly explain and justify their identity. Being ignored and silenced is oppressive.

Aromantic people just want casual sex

Some aromantic people may want this, and others may not. This is the same with alloromantic people; being aromantic doesn’t make you any more likely to want casual sex. However, if they do want casual sex, they are often wrongfully demonised for it.

Because of these misconceptions and because so few people are well-informed about aromanticism, it can be difficult for aromantic people to come out. If someone comes out to you as on the aromantic spectrum, be supportive and not intrusive – them coming out to you doesn’t mean you’re allowed to quiz them on their identity.

No matter how to identify, you’re not obligated to come out at all if you don’t feel safe or comfortable doing so. No one can tell you whether or not you should come out, but if you’re having trouble and want to talk to someone you can speak to our Community Diversity Officer, Welfare Officer or Cross Campus Officer.

Resources

Aromantic wiki: http://aromantic.wikia.com/wiki/Aromantics_Wiki

Definition on AVEN (Asexuality Visibility & Education Network): https://www.asexuality.org/wiki/index.php?title=Aromantic

Surprisingly good Buzzfeed article: http://www.buzzfeed.com/mcrosswell/5-myths-about-aromanticism-tysc#.bsX56Pzmy

We’re heading towards the end of term and this week we’ll be running an aromantism awareness campaign so be sure to look out for more information.

MONDAY
Coffee Evening – 18:00 Furness TV Room
Come along for a nice, relaxed social, have a chat with people and have a drink to start your week.

TUESDAY
Aromanticism Stall – Alexandra Square

Come on down to our stall to find more about the aromantic spectrum.

WEDNESDAY
Weekly Meeting – 17:00 Charles Carter A19
We’ll be having a workshop on aromantism, so join us to learn a little something and ask any questions you may!

THURSDAY
PMS – 17:30 Fylde Bar 
Our LGBTQ+ group for Postgraduate and Mature Students and Staff. This is an opportunity for specifically postgrads, mature students and staff to chat after work.

FRIDAY
T and Coffee – 18:00
This is a trans-specific social meeting for trans people to come together and discuss anything important to them. T and Coffee will be held at 6pm, and if you’re interested in attending, just send us a Facebook message.

Don’t forget to grab yourself a wristband for this Saturday’s Sugarhouse takeover! 😀

Monday – Coffee Evening will be at 6PM in Furness TV Room. This is our casual social weekly event where we have a warm drink and a chat. Feel free to bring games or friends!

Wednesday – On Wednesday we’ll have our weekly meeting in Charles Carter A19 at 5PM. Come along for some planning and discussion!

Thursday – the regular meeting of the Postgrad, Mature Student and Staff (PMS) group will be in Fylde Bar at 5:30PM. This is a casual gathering where LGBTQ postgrads, mature students and staff can relax after work, socialise and discuss LGBTQ issues specific to them.

Friday – T and Coffee, the social night for trans students, will be on Friday evening at 6PM. If you’re interested in this, please contact us on Facebook (completely confidential).

Saturday – Our one and only Sugarhouse Takeover will be happening once more! For those of you who wanted to go and couldn’t last term, make sure to grab yourself a wristband for free Sugar entry (only £1!) and come down Saturday night for an awesome night of fantastic music and great decoration! Don’t forget to invite friends!

Hello everyone! We’re approaching the halfway point on history month – if you got a chance to go to last week’s Gaylidh, we hope you enjoyed it! We’ve still got some tricks up our sleeve, and make sure to keep an eye out for the things that Women’s Forum and Liminal will be doing!

Monday – Coffee Evening will be at 6PM in Furness TV Room. This is our casual social weekly event where we have a warm drink and a chat. Feel free to bring games or friends!

Tuesday – On Tuesday, Out in the Bay, Lancaster’s local LGBT charity, will be hosting a stall in Alexandra Square to discuss what they’re up to during History Month.

Wednesday – Wednesday is our weekly meeting in Charles Carter A19. There’ll be some discussion, and finalising our plans for the rest of the month, and hopefully getting into detail on our upcoming Sugar Takeover and Canal Street trip!

Thursday – the regular meeting of the Postgrad, Mature Student and Staff (PMS) group will be in Fylde Bar at 5:30PM. This is a casual gathering where LGBTQ postgrads, mature students and staff can relax after work, socialise and discuss LGBTQ issues specific to them.

Also on Thursday is our third film screening of History Month. This week’s film is United in Anger, a documentary film about the beginning of the AIDS activist movement. The film screening will be at 7PM in Furness Lecture Theatre 2.

Friday – T and Coffee, the social night for trans students, will be on Friday evening at 6PM. If you’re interested in this, please contact us preferably through Facebook or via email (completely confidential).

And on Friday night we’re having our Decades-Themed Party! Dress up in the attire of a decade – for examples, some fashionable 90s double-denim – and come have a nice time. It starts in County Bar at 19:30!

Saturday – On Saturday, there will be a trans-specific social – a charity shop crawl where we will go round each of Lancaster’s charity shops to find ourselves comfortable clothing. If you’re interested in joining, send us a message.

 

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Free this Saturday? Come along to George Fox and have a whirl of a time dancing in LGBTQ+ and Folk Society’s Gaylidh! Calling will be gender-neutral, and the event is free to all! No prior experience necessary. Hope to see you there!
7pm – 9:30pm Saturday

LGBTQ+ History Month is still under way and we still have lots of exciting events coming up!

MONDAY – Coffee evening will be running as usual in Furness TV room at 6pm. Come along for a nice, relaxed social, have a chat with people and have a drink to start your week.

TUESDAY – We’ll be having a stall in Alexandra Square giving out ally ribbons for people who sign the iwsfi pledge and will be asking for donations for action for trans health. Come on down to learn a little about LGBTQ+ culture around the world and surround yourself with rainbows!

WEDNESDAY – Our weekly meeting will be at 5pm in Charles Carter A19. We will be discussing LGBTQ+ History Month and other upcoming socials and campaigns.

THURSDAY – PMS, our LGBTQ+ group for Postgraduate and Mature Students and Staff, will be at 5:30pm in Fylde Bar as usual. This is an opportunity for specifically postgrads, mature students and staff to chat after work.
We will be having our second film screening of history month, this week it’s Saving Face. Furness lecture theatre 2 at 7pm.

FRIDAY – T and Coffee is a trans-specific social meeting for trans people to come together and discuss anything important to them. T and Coffee will be held at 6PM, and if you’re interested in attending, just send us a Facebook message.

SATURDAY – We’re joining up with the Folk Society to run a “Gaylidh” (an LGBTQ+ ceilidh) so come along and join us for a dance or two! It’ll be in George Fox foyer at 7pm till 9:30pm.